We have all heard “No Pain No Gain”, this is true in any area of growth up and out of current circumstances, success, and leading others.
The pain comes from the discomfort from being outside of your comfort zone. Some discomfort comes from planned growth and other discomfort comes from bad experiences. What sets you apart from others is learning from all experiences good or bad and applying the lessons learned. John McDonnell said, “every problem introduces a person to himself.”
A problem to me is an opportunity for growth. I also state and have my team not say “we have a problem”, I have them change the world to challenge or opportunity. Every discomfort is a temporary lesson to clarity. Life has a way of giving you more than you think you can handle from loss of a spouse, child, parents, job, divorce, natural disasters, etc…at the end of each life changing scenario you come through the back end with more clarity, purpose, and strength.
Discomfort in hiking 4,000 vertical we found something of significance! The payoff of the view, wildflowers, and great satisfaction of accomplishment!
I’ve never known anyone who said, “I love problems,” but I’ve known many who have admitted that their greatest gains came in the middle of their pain. ~ John C. Maxwell
My personal life of discomfort has truly shown how attitude and looking for the lessons in clarity has created a life of significance and the gift of coaching others through my own experience of divorce, loss of children, loss of a job, hiking 14K+ mountains, sky-diving, and so on. . .these few examples from my stories give courage to character. Given strength, wisdom and knowledge to take into the corporate arena with a fierce understanding the discomfort is only temporary for the team to achieve something of significance!
Attitude is the number one trait of achieving great clarity through the Law of Pain. Virginia Satir states, Life is not the way it’s supposed to be, it is the way you cope with it is what makes the difference. Experience is the best teacher but the examination and taking lessons from each experience is key to the clarity of significance. Where there is no conversation of discomfort innovation becomes stagnant and the clear road ahead becomes foggy.
Look at current or past experiences to find creative clarity of moving forward:
- Define the challenge or opportunity (a.k.a. problem)
- What is the emotion involved and understand why (dig deep)
- Articulate and outline the experience and lesson learned (like Thomas Edison stated, just one more way not to make the light bulb which took him 10,000 tries)
- Now outline desired change to move forward with clarity (brainstorm numerous pathways)
- IMPLEMENT course of action from the temporary discomfort to a life of significant clarity
Discomfort, Pain, and Clarity is not something kept on your daily agenda, but I promise once you define them as outlined above the temporary discomfort will bring you to achieving something of significance! Not sure where to start , please feel free to contact me!
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John C. Maxwell (2012). 15 Invaluable Laws of Pain, Chap8.
Tracy A. Worley (2015) GRACEbreak Radio