Legacy is what people will say and remember about you when you are not in the room.
Think about the wake trailing a boat in water. Depending on the speed and intention the wake can reach far and wide. The wake can be soft or turbulent. It is a choice for your wake to be a positive influence or a negative one.
You can start making adjustments today to influence the outcome of lasting relationships meaningful not only to you but to the community at large left in your wake.
Below are a few questions to ask yourself for reflection:
What are people saying about you?
What would you like people to say and remember about you?
Do people revel in the your presence in the room or repel?
Are you influencing with relationship or influencing with position?
How you view the world is how you communicate to the world. Awareness of self-perception is an ingredient toward your success in influencing the outcome desired.
I often talk about communication, connection, collaboration, and creating community through influence. Through communication consulting, coaching, and creating communities there is always a new ingredient to success. Each group, person, and influencers are different. From industry, personalities, organizational culture, and so on. Every scenario of connection has a variation of an ingredient you cannot create all connections as equals.
There is one main ingredient to influencing; how you are viewing the world, internalizing, and communicating outward.
Recently, I found a new awareness with myself. I was viewing certain things in life as undone instead of what was done. Personal case study: at home I became frustrated when a trash bin had not been emptied. The bin was overloaded, heavy and not easy for me to lift and dump in the larger bin outside. What my view of the word at this time was, undone; “why would the person who filled the bin not empty it, they have left a burden for the next person; me.” The next phase of this case study was to influence the outcome and have someone empty the bin. My attitude was not a winning strategy to say the least. Crashing down came the humbling awareness of how I viewed this particular area of my world. I did not see what was done, such as no garbage on the floor; everything was tidy in the bin. I only saw what was undone. Undone was this person did not leave the bin better than the way they found it.
Awareness is always the next step in success. I ask, what area’s in your life are you viewing undone when in fact they are done.
For me and mine, I had a change of attitude and influenced a better outcome of completion of “done” and that is leaving the bin better off for the next user.
Would love to know your thoughts and experiences of done vs. undone.
Gratitude is Riches, Complaint is Poverty ~ Doris Day
In America we have our annual feast of food, family, friends, and now commercial gluttony.
Last Holiday season everyone in our family received a journal to write what we are grateful. Each night at dinner we would share those grateful thoughts written down. Some days it was a rinse and repeat from the day or weeks before. What I found is we let the daily grind and outside influences take place of our daily journal. Today we will start anew!
Are you in the hustle of to-do lists, deadlines, and forgetting details of the day where there are gifts and miracles surrounding us minute by minute? Most of us have more than we need, from running water, warm beds, clean clothes, shoes purchased just for our feet, to the freedom of choice in entertainment, to freely walking to our local park to shoot hoops without fear.
There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. ~ Albert Einstein
My wish and prayer for you is to find the miracles in your day.
I am grateful for all of you, your gifts, and everything you share with your global communities.
A life full of joy, clarity, focus, and determined success
I am often asked why I do what I do. This is a valid question and one I ask myself often. From coaching, consulting, to public speaking the one thing that keeps me coming back is the “spark”. Yes, all individuals, teams, and groups have an energy all their own and I see this as a “spark”. There is a raised energy when people see or rise to the next level of success.
Think about the spark of excitement in your face when holding a sparkler; even as adults we giggle and have childlike wonder when holding a sparkler in our hand. Working with men and women; they all hold a spark of excitement when entering the next level of success!
Throughout a golfers career whether for pleasure or competition there are times the swing is not recalling. It could be from mind block, muscle memory, fatigue, and so many other factors. At times it is a bad game or bad season where the player is unable to hit the ball well. What keeps players coming back is the “spark”. What keeps players coming back is the one great shot, chip, or putt; the “spark” of confident excitement and rush of accomplishment.
Identify Your Spark
Who or what makes your heart jump for joy?
Where would you love to spend more time serving?
What projects when complete sends your heart racing and calling others to share in the excitement?
The above is a short list of questions to dive into what you love to do and why you do it. If you are finding current space and circumstances keep you from doing what you love to do; perhaps it is time to make a change. Your unique talents are what the world needs. The world is in need for you to “spark” others with what you have to offer. The “spark” is similar to a golfer, one well hit ball or “spark” builds your heart to do more of what you were built to do.
Personally, my “spark” to keep doing what I do is filled with clients accomplishments, ideas, and transition to next levels of success. My clients build solid foundations while holding childlike wonder creating their own sparkler experience. You can say I am a “spark” maker by sparking individuals, teams, and groups into new success they could not see or do before.
The spark leads to a well lived life full of joy, clarity, focus, and determined success.
Share, I would love to know what “sparks” you to do what you do!
Humans think and say the darnedest things about others! This past week our country (USA) has been rocked with racial tension with both sides name calling. I find it interesting celebrity (media, comedians, politicians) receive so much play in name calling, back slurs, and downright more hate mongering.
I tend to stay away from the news, politics, and other negative scenarios. There is no courage in being of caveman mentality beating each other over the head with words, actions, and deed.
Personally my life is not perfect; my business and family navigate through the gambit of emotions, conflict, love, fear, anger, joy, connection, and community.
I CHOOSE to find value in others before judgment or bias. I CHOOSE to leave my garbage bag of “stuff” outside the door; this creates a clear space to find commonalities, community, and connection to civility.
Be the change you desire. Be a change agent and stop pissing people off!
I know the language is not enlightening however it grabs our attention. This weeks series is about being an agent of positive change. Change is anything from stepping up and doing the things you thought you would never do. Facing your fears and getting messy!
This week has certainly been messy in our house as our 12 year old turned 13 last week. Testing the waters of sass, harass, and collapse into a crazy cycle.
In one conversation our son stomped off into the other room telling me, “all you do all day is just piss people off.” My first reaction was not delicate and I did keep it to myself. In reflection of his perception of me in a moment of frustration fits into this weeks Fire It Up; be an agent of change.
Can I change his perception, surely. We can continue to have dialogue around it and show him how I show up for people everyday as a change agent creating new paradigms of success. Create dialogue in reflection after a conversation with someone (other than him). Ask our son how does he think I made them feel by helping?
Here are a few areas to dialogue with self and with others and ask are you being a change agent in your own life and others:
Relies in your desire for growth
Surround yourself with others who help you stay committed
Do the right thing even when it is the most painful thing
We are human, let go of perfection
Thank you for joining me on our Summer Fire It Up Friday Series.