Legacy is what people will say and remember about you when you are not in the room.
Think about the wake trailing a boat in water. Depending on the speed and intention the wake can reach far and wide. The wake can be soft or turbulent. It is a choice for your wake to be a positive influence or a negative one.
You can start making adjustments today to influence the outcome of lasting relationships meaningful not only to you but to the community at large left in your wake.
Below are a few questions to ask yourself for reflection:
What are people saying about you?
What would you like people to say and remember about you?
Do people revel in the your presence in the room or repel?
Are you influencing with relationship or influencing with position?
How you view the world is how you communicate to the world. Awareness of self-perception is an ingredient toward your success in influencing the outcome desired.
I often talk about communication, connection, collaboration, and creating community through influence. Through communication consulting, coaching, and creating communities there is always a new ingredient to success. Each group, person, and influencers are different. From industry, personalities, organizational culture, and so on. Every scenario of connection has a variation of an ingredient you cannot create all connections as equals.
There is one main ingredient to influencing; how you are viewing the world, internalizing, and communicating outward.
Recently, I found a new awareness with myself. I was viewing certain things in life as undone instead of what was done. Personal case study: at home I became frustrated when a trash bin had not been emptied. The bin was overloaded, heavy and not easy for me to lift and dump in the larger bin outside. What my view of the word at this time was, undone; “why would the person who filled the bin not empty it, they have left a burden for the next person; me.” The next phase of this case study was to influence the outcome and have someone empty the bin. My attitude was not a winning strategy to say the least. Crashing down came the humbling awareness of how I viewed this particular area of my world. I did not see what was done, such as no garbage on the floor; everything was tidy in the bin. I only saw what was undone. Undone was this person did not leave the bin better than the way they found it.
Awareness is always the next step in success. I ask, what area’s in your life are you viewing undone when in fact they are done.
For me and mine, I had a change of attitude and influenced a better outcome of completion of “done” and that is leaving the bin better off for the next user.
Would love to know your thoughts and experiences of done vs. undone.
Humans think and say the darnedest things about others! This past week our country (USA) has been rocked with racial tension with both sides name calling. I find it interesting celebrity (media, comedians, politicians) receive so much play in name calling, back slurs, and downright more hate mongering.
I tend to stay away from the news, politics, and other negative scenarios. There is no courage in being of caveman mentality beating each other over the head with words, actions, and deed.
Personally my life is not perfect; my business and family navigate through the gambit of emotions, conflict, love, fear, anger, joy, connection, and community.
I CHOOSE to find value in others before judgment or bias. I CHOOSE to leave my garbage bag of “stuff” outside the door; this creates a clear space to find commonalities, community, and connection to civility.
Create your legacy before others create it for you.
One of my greatest mentors and teachers John C. Maxwell taught me, “people remember how you made them feel.” As I traverse from coaching executives to corporate teams the common denominators are “feelings” and “communication”.
Have you heard “this is business, there is no room for feelings in business“, or some other derivative of it? Well, there is room; people remember how you made them feel over all else. Yes, they remember how they feel over you making them millions, cured their cancer, helped them solve a large issue.
Loving Friday’s with all of you! Last Friday of June and we are ramping up to a juicy series. Today challenge yourself to find area’s to be selfish so you can add more value to others and be selfless.
God has blessed each and every one of you with combined gifts and talents no one else can bring to the table. We are meant to be individuals to serve the world as a whole.
My selfish story: a few years ago in Columbus, Ohio I had an opportunity to learn from renowned business coach. We were sitting in a small group of about five in a circle. The coach went around and asked us all questions, and then we masterminded on a few topics. From there this coach proceeded to look me straight in the eye and stated, “you need to be more selfish.” My immediate response was discomfort and tears (I rarely ever cry or in public for that matter).
Basically, put your oxygen mask on first!
Great coaches implement a delicate balance of not pushing you off the edge while letting you find discomfort in problem solving or transforming to the next level of your success. Being “selfish” is one of those examples of discomfort so you can transform into next step. Break down your resistance for a moment of discomfort to transform to the next level.
In the video I talked about being at the table. What this means is are you serving people and places you have no business adding value to? Is it your time to be at the table?
Few questions for yourself:
Are you sitting at the right table?
Can you voice your boundaries clearly and effectively?
When serving do I walk away with a full cup or an empty one?
Selfish and selfless leads to one core tool and that is your voice. Use your voice to create boundaries into selfless opportunities to serve within your gifts. The world needs what you have to offer; speak up!
Thank you for joining me on our Summer Fire It Up Friday Series.